He Let Me Pay On The First Date
Are you waiting to hear my dating disaster after checking out the title? I knew it, you gossip lovers! Sometime last year, I did a Q&A with a few guy friends to understand their minds (you can read it here) & a couple of weeks back, I was reminded of the unfinished series I was supposed to complete.
Ok, to sum this up as much as possible without leaving out any crucial details, I went on a date with a guy (he was the inviter). As he’s not picky with food, I chose the restaurant & ordered a starter plus two mains for us. No drinks, no desserts. When the bill came ($70+), I offered to go dutch & he said ok without any hesitation. Ladies, I know you’re in shock, but hold it. I didn’t have enough cash so he paid first & I offered to wire him half the amount on the bill. Again, he said ok without saying anything else.
I’m not going to explain why I’m cool with splitting the bill (though it was my first for a first date) because most importantly, I want to go to bed now, secondly, I thought being equitable should be the trend now, & lastly, I’ll let the guys do the back & forth of reasoning. I’ve sequenced them according to star sign & age:
Leo 29: There is nothing wrong with splitting the bill, especially if he is a white guy. It doesn’t mean anything.. Just reading into it too much. It’s like Neo fell during his first jump inside Matrix. Then the guy asks, what does it mean? (he’s not the one?) The other guy answered, it doesn’t mean anything.
Everyone falls the first time. The answer will only come after the first date. See if he contacts you, if he does, he’s interested. If he doesn’t, just move on. Plenty of good fish.
Gemini 23: He manages his money well. Or he’s not attracted to you. Or attracted to you but doesn’t want to let you have the impression that he’s buying your love. He’s respecting you!
Leo 23: Maybe he doesn’t know how to reject you. Or he thought you’re one of those girls who doesn’t like to argue over who to get the bill. Or it could be because he really is cool with anything.
Aries 22: Honestly if I were him, I would say “it’s my treat” and pay for the first and the last date. But then again, it might not mean anything. It might be because he wants another chance to too ask you out and treat you for a meal. On second thought, he’s not interested in you. Or he’s gay! My feel is that maybe he said ok but not expecting you to really transfer the money. He could be really shy like how I used to be. I just answered ok for most things.
Aquarius 21: Means he is f up! He should at least offer to pay first. If you insist, then cool. & when he realised you’ve no money, he should just smile & say “fate wants me to pay for you.” then pay it la. Wa Lau, so ungentlemenly. Lol
Aquarius 21: These days, girls want to pay & if we don’t let you, you think we are MCPs (Male Chauvinistic Pigs). But without hesitation abit too much la. At least like reject twice la. I think you can just dump him. Haha or give him a chance. Maybe he’s a rookie in dating?
But if a girl don’t have enough money, I will say “don’t bother.” If she insists, I will tell her to take me out for dessert or ice cream the next time. Cause no guys should let girls pay that much.
Let me know your thoughts!